So, I’m going on vacation in T-minus 25 days. I’m going to California. The land of plastic surgery and skinny bods. Me and my sister were thinking of dropping some poundage before our trip.. but as I sit here sipping my coffee and munching on some Cadbury fingers cookies, I think to myself, I really have no desire to start some binge dieting so that I can look semi-acceptable to someone else’s eyeballs. Yes, of course I want to be healthier and all that jazz. However, I don’t want to set these unrealistic expectations and time limits on myself and most importantly, for the goal for this endeavor to be ‘to look OK in a bathing suit‘. I have news for you. I already look OK in my bathing suit. Anyone who has issues with that needs to avert their gaze and perhaps turn them inwards to the person they really think isn’t looking up to par.
Being a bigger girl, I have constantly had people talk about “larger” women and say “look what she is wearing!” and things like “should she be wearing that?” or the ever so famous “people should dress for their body type”. Don’t get me wrong. I’ll be the first to comment on what people are wearing. That’s because I believe modesty has seem to gone the way of the dinosaurs. Less is More seems to be the norm nowadays and the half naked peeps always get a stare from me. I saw I post the other day that made me giggle. It said “Call me old fashioned, but I believe that shorts should be longer than your vagina.” Anyway, as I go off topic as I normally tend to do, my point is.. my comments are aimed at everyone. Fit, thin, big, average or whatever. Maybe that’s my prudish demi ways shining through at those moments, but I do think there is no need to show off all your bits and pieces in public. But what do I know.
SO, back to my first thought… at first glance, the girls they are commenting on are usually smaller than me, or my size or maybe sometimes slightly larger than me. I give the person I’m chatting with a look and say “umm.. I’m that size too”.. and they’ll make a quick comment like “oh, but you’re very proportioned and don’t look anything like that. You look good girl!”.. Because suddenly that’s supposed to make me feel better? There are other bigger women who bash bigger women too and say “i wouldn’t be caught dead in that. gross!” .. well, that’s great.. dress how you feel comfortable. Don’t bash someone else because they wanna wear something fitted and they have rolls. Maybe if they wore a burlap sac it would make everyone feel less uncomfortable…?
Everyone knows that hate for people’s physical appearances stems from their own inner feelings. Well, if everyone doesn’t know.. they should know. So basically.. if you’re calling someone a “fatty” and making fun, the chances that you have some deep seeded personal self worth/value/image issues, is quite high. Sorry to break it to you. It doesn’t make me feel bad. I just feel bad for you and feel grateful that I’m not ugly like that. Just remember that.
So, bikini bodies. Let me tell you.. we have come A LONG WAY in terms of what’s available now for us plus size girlies out there. So much, that I’m actually going to BUY ONE myself! and wear it! Yes. I said that. I haven’t worn a bikini in YEARS.. since i was 8-9 I think. To think of it, it makes me really sad that I can remember being 9 and self conscious of my body. How horrible is that? I wish I could hug my little 9 year old self and tell her she was beautiful and not a tubby. Aww… But it wasn’t mostly cuz I didn’t like my body. Most bikinis did very little to hold in my boobs or even my butt and were made to be very..err.. let’s just say.. “exposed”.. Going back to my modesty comments.. I’m not one for much exposure and I tend to think that bathing suits are much sexier than a wee bikini. I mean that. Some of those suits are hella hot and you’re not all exposed. Sometimes being covered.. *cough*most times*cough* can be highly attractive and sexy. But once again, what do I know.. But the day of the skimpy bikinis has changed!! There are LOADS of bikinis available out there now that are NOT little itty bitty pieces of strings and are actually hella cute and adorable!! They are SO awesome that I totally have to buy one. Here’s a bunch of links for you to check out if you want to try out a bikini this year. And you totally should. 🙂 — i apologize in advance for the lack of photos in this post.. as I am still trying to figure out how to work this page. My blogger site was much easier to handle–
– Check out the Militant Baker’s blog with a bikini review. It’s amazing and has lots of pix:
The Militant Baker: 18 FATKINIS FOR ULTIMATE SUMMER BABLINESS
– TORRID also has a bunch of cute styles and separates.
– Addionelle has a couple of bikini options. I have bought a strapless bikini from them before and they make beautiful suits.
– I’m not familiar with this page.. but they have a HUGE selection of bikinis! You should go check it out:
Swimsuits for All
Here’s the one I really wanted to try out.. Cuz I have a tight budget.. considering I’m going on vacation soon and I’m moving soon. So, this is totally within my budget.. AND incredibly cute!!! Plus, the name sold me.. (Any Step Brothers fans in the house?? haa)
But unfortunately, they are out of stock in my size. Maybe I will try a different print. I did have my heart set on that polka dot one..
I’ll be sure to post pictures of me on my vacation in this swimsuit and others. 🙂
As a final reminder everyone, LOVE your body and all of you no matter what. Try to step out of your comfort zone sometimes. Don’t worry about what other people think. Ever. The most important person who matters, when it comes to what they think about you, is YOU, yourself and nobody else. Trust me on this one. Once you learn this and live it, you will be MUCH happier. 🙂 Bikini ready body is ANYTIME. Go out there and enjoy yourself and feel happy and comfortable in your skin. It’s yours and no one else’s.